You should be ashamed of yourself.

Well, are you?

What is your flaw or vulnerability that you’re hiding?

If you let it, shame can play a debilitating role in your life.  And the sad thing about shame is that if you suffer from it, there’s a great likelihood that it was placed up on you when you were a child and you’ve carried it ever since.

Shame has been used as a weapon to protect the status quo. Shame is also used to control and manipulate, because the tribe says ‘if you embarrass us then there’s a danger we’ll disown you and then you’ll be alone.’

People will use shame in an attempt to control you because it provides them with safety and security, don’t let them. They will threaten to withhold their emotions if you don’t comply with their shaming, and this will be difficult for you, but try to keep in mind that this says more about them and their insecurities than about you.

Escaping shame is extremely difficult because it takes deep resolve and an exposure to vulnerability. It requires you to believe that it’s okay to have flaws, and that everyone does, some are just better at hiding them than others.

If you find yourself being victimized by shame, commit to fighting against it. Don’t live to be but a shadow of your true self that’s living behind a curtain of shame.

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