“The art of love is largely the art of persistence.” — Albert Ellis

How do you remind yourself that you love the people you say you do?

Do you pray for them?

If prayer is not your thing, then do you actively think good thoughts about them?

Do you appreciate them in your mind?

Do you mentally list the reasons why you love them?

It’s very easy to say that you love someone, and at times just saying it can become a habit, but reminding yourself of the reasons strengthens the foundation of why you love them.

Your mind, like any other muscle needs attention and exercise. Consider the practice of reviewing reasons you love someone as mental reps, similar to working any other muscle.

When you actively practice reminding yourself why you love someone, be it a friend or in the romantic sense, you’ll develop a deeper sense of appreciation for them. You’ll also be able to navigate the bumps and rough patches that come with any relationship just a little easier because you’ll have the reasons you love them top of mind.

Look, your mind is a busy place and it’s constantly prioritizing what you think about and while it’s doing this it’s very easy to neglect some of the more important parts of your life. So, sometimes you have to step in and reorganize and prioritize what’s important to you.

Now this doesn’t mean you have to spend hours fawning and swooning over someone, nor does it mean you accept transgressions against you. All I’m suggesting is that if say you love someone spend a few seconds or minutes reminding yourself why. If you do this on a regular basis you’ll begin to feel a deeper sense of love for them and they’ll be able to feel it too.

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