When was the last time you asked for help?

For so many of us, asking for help is a sign of weakness. But why? What is about asking for help or what have we been taught that makes us feel this way?

The ability to ask for help is a strength, or I would go so far as to say that it’s a skill that over time can be honed and improved. I say it’s a strength because those that know how to ask for help have learned that in doing so they are willing to say or show that they don’t have all the answers, and this in itself is a form of confidence. And when they do ask for help, they endear others to them.

How does asking for help endear people to you?

As much as people enjoy being around or admire confident people, they also don’t like overconfidence. So, asking someone for help does a couple of things. First, it shows them that your human and humble enough to ask for help. And second, and perhaps even more important, it makes them feel needed.

We know from history that any one person that achieved a great accomplishment in their life did not do so alone. They were often surrounded by a support system or team that helped them get to their goals, it’s just that the support system doesn’t get the same amount of attention. You too will need a team or support system to reach your goals. So, learn to ask for help when you need it.

I’m not suggesting or recommending that you continuously ask other people to do things for you because if you do, you’ll soon find that people will begin to ignore or avoid you. But if you’re genuinely stuck and have exhausted all your options then ask for help.

Develop the strength, courage, confidence, and skill to ask for help without any feelings of weakness. Once you do, you’ll find that not only will you endear people to you, but you’ll also open the door for them to ask you for help. And what could be better than a world where we all help each other accomplish our goals.  

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