Are you keeping score?

I can hear you asking – keeping score of what?

Keeping score of whatever is important to you.

In business, there’s a mantra that ‘what gets measured, gets managed.’ But when it comes to their personal lives, people seem to fly by the seat of their pants.

Why is that so?

Let’s take relationships as an example.

It might seem strange or artificial to measure the number of hugs you give or the number of kind words or terms of endearment that you say to a loved one. Maybe you feel as though these actions should be intuitive and based upon how you feel.

But is that true?

What happens when for whatever reason, you don’t feel like expressing kindness or positive emotions?

Should you let your most important relationships fall by the wayside? Should the people around you be punished for how you’re feeling?

Or should you act in a loving manner regardless of how you feel?

I understand that an argument can be made for both sides, but I’m on the side that action precedes emotion. When you act a certain way, you’ll eventually begin to feel that way.

If you’re keeping a score of the number of times you require yourself to say kind words or behave lovingly, then you’ll act regardless of how you feel.

Acting regardless of how you feel because you’re keeping score forces you to pay attention to what is important to you. And you can use this technique as a superpower that can also apply to other areas of your life.

So, whatever area of life you’re trying to maintain or improve, start keeping score. Write down metrics that, if you know if you’re able to beat or maintain, would move you towards the outcomes in life you’re seeking.

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