Who is your biggest fan?

Who always chooses you first?

Hopefully, you answered – I am, and I do.  

What does it mean to choose yourself or to be your biggest fan?

It means you’re not waiting for someone else’s validation of your existence.

If this sounds like I’m glorifying or promoting selfishness, it’s because I am. But not in the, you shouldn’t care about other people kind of way.

When you choose and support yourself first, you’re able to give more of yourself to others. After all, you can’t give from an empty vessel.

The idea of being your biggest fan is a reminder that no matter what happens, you will always have your back. This doesn’t mean you don’t accept your faults and admit to the mistakes you make; it means you’ll love yourself despite them.

Choosing yourself can be scary at first because that’s not what most people are taught to do. Implicitly or explicitly, they’re always taught to be asking and thinking about how other people will perceive them. And so, instead of being themselves, they’re molded by the whims and wishes of those they interact with.

Learning to be your biggest fan can be a long journey because there might be habits and traits that you need to unlearn. You may well have to take baby steps as you learn to prioritize yourself while perhaps fending off pokes and barbs from others as you begin to establish a new version of yourself. A version of you that others will have to get used to.

So, you have some choices to make. You can either commit to being your biggest fan and choosing yourself or go through life waiting to be picked and chosen by others. One path leads to a solid, stronger foundation on which to continue your journey, and the other depends on the moods and vagaries of others. I hope that you choose the former’s security and not the latter’s instability.

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