Raj Daniels

What is your self-worth tied too?

Is it tied to your effort or to outcomes?

Do you put your self-worth in the hands of others?

Your self-worth is a very delicate thing to manage because no matter how hard you try, you’ll almost always be comparing yourself to those around you.

You can feel comfortable knowing that it’s very rare to find an individual that doesn’t experience doubts about their self-worth no matter how confident they might seem to be.

A constant comparison to those around you is a killer of your personal self-worth because you’re tying what your worth to their lives.

The interesting thing about self-worth is that the better you feel about yourself, the better you’ll show up in the world.

Building a sense of inner confidence, security and feeling of worthiness about who you are will give you a richer, fuller life experience.

A strong self-worth will give you permission to attempt to do more things in in life because you won’t judge yourself as ‘less than’ if you don’t always succeed.

Working on building your own self-worth is a worthy mission.

When you learn respect and regard your self-worth as something you value then you’ll begin to notice that those around will begin to value you too.

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Are you a finisher?

Do you have to complete everything you start?

Does the idea of something being unfinished cause you anxiety?

The compulsion to bring everything to conclusion might actually be holding you back, especially when it comes to creative endeavors.

If you speak to any creative, whether they are an artist, musician or writer, almost all will tell you that they have many unfinished projects.

Yes, there are always the exceptions that see every project through to completion, but the majority, if given the opportunity to truly confess will show you vast amounts of unfinished work.

So why do they have so much unfinished work?

Because they’re not afraid to start.

When they feel inspiration strike, they act, without a clear path ahead.  Often uncertain of what will happen next, they put pen to paper, brush to canvas and just start.

But they know a secret that many don’t.

Each additional action they take leads them closer to more finished work.

They know that all the dabbling and scribbling, the trying the failing strengthens their resolve to try some more.

So if you’re the kind of person that has to bring every project to conclusion then good for you.

But every once in a while see if you can quash the need to have everything wrapped up with a nice little bow. Try a few different things, even if eventually you leave them unfinished.

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How would it feel if you were flipping through TV channels without ever deciding on a show to watch?

Imagine channel surfing all day.

You’d probably get frustrated with it very quickly, toss the remote and walk away.

And that’s okay if you’re watching TV.

But what if you couldn’t’ walk away?

Well, that’s what happens with your mind all day long.

It’s constantly moving from one thought to another, sometimes not even in any particular sequence, just one random thought to another.

There it goes again.

What if you could put it on pause just for a few moments?

Well you can if you choose to.

I wrote about meditation way back in 2016 as one of my initial blog posts, but I thought it would be good idea to re-visit the subject, at least briefly.

Starting a meditation practice doesn’t have to be a complicated process and you don’t need incense and robes to set the mood for a perfect session.

You can meditate while lying down, standing, walking or sitting, so you don’t have to be in a traditional crossed legged pose that often associated with meditation.

With all the various styles of meditation, you can explore and find one that best suits you.

Channel surfing works well with TV because hopefully you eventually land on something you want watch. But your mind keeps bouncing around because that’s what it’s in the habit of doing, unless you intervene.

So why not consciously give your mind the occasional break?

Find a meditation technique and create a practice that works for you, and give your mind a much needed pause.

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One color

One brush

One pen

One sheet of paper

What can you produce with just your mind and a limited set of tools?

Art – Da Vinci’s famous Vitruvian man created with a limited set of tools.

Books – The Bible, Gita, Quran and Torah have influenced billions of people and all were created with a limited set of tools.

Buildings – The Pyramids and the Taj Mahal have stood the test of time and were created with a limited set of tools.

Better tools or more tools are very often not the answer.

In fact the idea that you need better tools is usually either a form of procrastination or an excuse for not starting.

And, once you begin with what you have you will eventually learn what more you might need, but very rarely will more sophisticated tools help you get started.

So get started with as little as possible and remember your imagination is unlimited so don’t let a limited amount of tools hold you back.

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Have you ever heard of any of these places?

Hayward, California

Kingfisher, Oklahoma

Kosciusko, Mississippi

Westmoreland County, Virginia,

If you have then great, if not then you’re not alone. I too had never heard of them.

These somewhat unknown places are the birth places of some very well-known individuals.

While there can be some advantages to being born in a certain place, there are also countless examples of individuals that were born in all parts of the world that have created amazing lives for themselves.

If you’re still wonder about the list then here you go.

Hayward, California – Dwayne Johnson aka The Rock

Kingfisher, Oklahoma – Sam Walton

Kosciusko, Mississippi – Oprah Winfrey

Westmoreland County, Virginia – George Washington

None of the people on this list were born in places that stand out on a map, and this list could go on to include millions of people from around the world that you’ve never heard of.

My reason for pointing this out is to illustrate that while where you were born does play a large part in your life; it doesn’t have to limit you.

So embrace where you’re from as part of your history and then decide where you’re going in your future.

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Have you ever been around a hot mic?

If you have then you know what to expect.

If you’re wondering what a hot mic is then I’ll help you out.

A hot mic is a microphone that’s turned on and is ready to broadcast or record.

So, how would you behave if you knew there was always a hot mic nearby?

Would it change what you said out loud?

How would you talk about people if you knew there might be a chance that they’d find out what you said about them?

If you’re willing to say out loud what’s on your mind and are not concerned about the consequences then you have nothing to fear from hot mics.

But if not then be aware.

Technology is currently on a path where you can expect there to always be a hot mic nearby. And there’s no guarantee that what you discuss and say in private will remain private.

So, if you’re already in the habit of speaking about things you wouldn’t mind being heard, then good for you. But if not, then now might be a good time start.

Look around you.

They’re all just like you.

Yes, colors, shapes, sizes and even gender might be different, but deep down they’re all just like you.

Their concerns and fears.

Their needs and wants.

Their desires and discomforts.

Their insecurities.

Almost all are similar to yours.

Even the ones you put on a pedestal.

The ones you think are better than you.

The ones you disdain.

The ones you think you’re better than.

They’re just like you.

And just like you, none of them escape the emotions and feelings that are involved in being human.

At times you might feel as though it’s only you that’s experiencing a certain set of feelings, but know that many of those around you have probably experienced them too.

So as you go about your day undulating between waves of highs and lows have grace and patience with all who are around you, because just like you, they’re in the same boat too.

Have you discovered your calling?

If yes then fantastic!

Know that there are very few people that find their calling early in life and if you’re one of them then appreciate the fact that you’re in a very distinct minority.

However, if you’re still on a journey of discovery then keep reading.

Keep in mind that a calling is not something you’re obligated to pursue and many don’t due to their circumstances or because it’s not a priority for them.

You’ll know when you’ve found your calling because you’ll feel enthusiastic and alive when you’re doing it.

Money, recognition, nor time will be of importance to you because you’re operating in full alignment.

Finding your calling does require work, but not necessarily physical labor. It requires the work of attention and recognition.

You need to work at paying attention to subtle signals inside of you that will tell you when you’re close to your calling.

If you listen you’ll find that your life will keep giving you clues to your calling, such as interests or ideas that keep showing up, or even dreams.

You’ll need to make space in your life if you really want to find your calling, but you’ll find that if you do, discovering your calling will be well worth the effort.

Have you ever witnessed the power of incremental change?

Incremental change is a wonderful phenomenon; however you have to be vigilant because incremental change can work both for you and against you.

Incremental change requires your attention and patience.

A plane that is slightly off course will never reach its destination, but one that’s constantly correcting by making small changes will eventually arrive at the desired location.

The challenge with incremental change is that you and those that are closest to you won’t see it happening, since most people only tend to believe what they see. And this is when you need patience.

Incremental change is like the power of compound interest. If you work on yourself and have faith, one morning you’ll wake up and realize just how much you’ve grown.

Don’t undervalue the power of incremental change. Leverage it with intention to achieve the big goals in your life.

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Have you ever run an obstacle course?

Well, if you’re reading this then you are a participant in the greatest obstacle course ever made.

It is life.

And in many cases the obstacles will be unique to you.

Some of the obstacles will be real and others will be manufactured by your own psychology.

And as long as you’re alive the obstacles will never stop.

They will come in all sorts of shapes and sizes.

Some you will be able to manage with ease and others will take more practice and time.

Occasionally it might look as though your fellow participants have easier obstacles than you do, but that’s rarely true.

Unfortunately there’s no real way to avoid obstacles and you’ll find that if you try then they’ll be another waiting for you around the corner.

The faster you learn to face your obstacles head on the more skillful you’ll become at handling new obstacles in the future.

Lastly keep in mind that life is going to provide you with plenty of obstacles to deal with so there’s no need to burden yourself further by making up your own obstacles in your head.

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Recently a friend pointed out that my book would make for a great book club book. It would be unique because unlike most books which have one underlying theme, the discussions that my book would promote would vary from week to week.

So, if you know anyone in or starting a book club please suggest my book to them. It would really mean a lot to me.

As always thank you for your continue support.

How do you feel when you don’t make the team?

What will you do when you don’t get the job?

When you’re not accepted by a person?

How will you handle rejection?

It’s been said that rejection is the number one fear among human beings.

If you are adventurous, bold and courageous then it’s almost inevitable that you will experience rejection.

The reason for this is you are not willing to only accept your status quo. You’re not willing to wait in line for the next handout or stay within your given boundaries.

You want to experience more.

But the desire to experience more also comes with the risk of rejection.

Rejection can be difficult because it can leave you feeling as though there is something defective about you.

But there isn’t.

Which I agree is easier said than done, especially when you’re in the moment.

Acknowledge your feelings when you are rejected because that is an integral part of the human experience. But then learn to move on.

The more you practice moving forward the better you’ll get at handling rejection because you’ll begin to learn that rejection is not the end of the world.

And in some cases when you look back you’ll be happy that you were rejected.

You can actually build your tolerance for rejection by asking for things you really don’t need or want just so that you can get used to it.

You’ll soon come to realize that rejection can be an opportunity for self-improvement in many aspects of your life.

So don’t live in the shadows. Go out, get rejected and see what you can learn.

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Here’s a list of holidays that have been appropriated by the retail industry in order to sell you more of their products.

I took the liberty of adding what the holiday initially represented just in case you’re not aware.

1. New Year’s Day Sale – A day marking the beginning of a new calendar year according to the Gregorian calendar.
2. MLK Day Sale – A day to celebrate Martin Luther King’s Birthday.
3. President’s Day Sale – A day to celebrate George Washington’s birthday, the first U.S. president.
4. Mother’s Day Sale – A day to remember and appreciate mothers.
5. Easter Sale – Easter is a day Christians celebrate the resurrection of Jesus.
6. Memorial Day Sale – Celebrated in the U.S. as a day to remember those that have died serving in the armed forces.
7. Father’s Day Sale – A day to remember and appreciate fathers.
8. Independence Day Sale – Celebrated in the U.S. as the day commemorating adoption of the declaration of independence.
9. Labor Day Sale – intended that the day would be filled with a street parade to allow the public to appreciate the work of the trade and labor organizations.
10. Columbus Day Sale – Columbus Day, which is on the second Monday of October, remembers Christopher Columbus’ arrival to the Americas
11. Thanksgiving Day sale – began as a day of giving thanks for the blessing of the harvest and of the preceding year.
12. Christmas Sale – Christmas is observed by Christians as the Jesus’s birthday.

I’ve only presented you with 12 but there are many more that have been manufactured and probably more to come.

As you shop your way through the year, keep in mind that adding to what you have doesn’t add to who you are. And in some cases you might even lose who you are in what you acquire.

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How do you know when you’re in it?

It’s when you feel as though you’ll be consumed by it.

At the time it will feel like the hardest challenge in your life.

You’ll feel as though you’re running quicksand.

Yes, you’ll have fleeting moments when you’ll forget that you’re in it. But as soon as you do, you’ll experience a sinking feeling in your stomach that will serve to remind you that you’re still in it.

There will be times when you’re in it that you’ll want to give up, run away or just disappear.

Don’t do that.

Reach out and ask for help.

Most of the times you’ll be strong enough to work through it by yourself, but there will other times when you’ll need to be stronger and ask for a helping hand.

Learn to do so.

Life is nothing but a series of ‘its’ that all vary in duration and intensity.

When you’re experiencing it you might think that you’re the only one, but everyone you see is experiencing their own version of it.

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Have you heard the phrase, looking at the world through rose colored glasses?

Apparently the origin of this phrase began during the Civil War when wounded soldiers battling depression were given rose colored glasses as treatment in order to see things through a more positive light.

But this doesn’t just work on vision.

It can also work for your mind.

What you listen too, read and watch all have an impact on how you see the world.

How would your days and nights be different if you intentionally book-ended them with good, positive, uplifting information, practices and thoughts?

You can choose to do this not as an escape from reality, but a decision to frame your own reality.

And who’s to say that the information you currently consume isn’t just someone else’s version of reality that you accept without validation.

Practice creating a rose colored glasses regiment for your mind, and enjoy seeing your world through a more positive light.

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Have you ever played a game without rules?

A game where you make up the rules as you go along?

If you watch children play you’ll see that they make up rules to games all the time. And very often they’ll change or makeup new ones as they go along.

But the most interesting thing is that when they do change the rules it’s usually in their favor.

You can do the same for yourself.

You don’t have to abide by all the rules that are presented to you.

You do have choices.

Learn to challenge rules, if not physically then at least in your head. Ask yourself why this rule exists.

Rules are often made to create some form of order, but they are at times also created to benefit one group over another.

Breaking rules can have consequences but you’ll find that at times the consequences will actually be in your favor. Often if you push hard enough you’ll learn about exceptions to the rules, why not be that exception.

Your life is your game to play.

Learn to make your own rules when you can, because at least then you’ll know the rules will be in your best interest.

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You hear a lot about attention deficit, but what if you had an abundance of attention?

What if you were able to conjure up a laser like focus whenever you needed to?

What if you were able to be fully present in all that you do?

Well now you can with the all new Attention Abundance Trainer 9000.

In just 10 minutes a day you too can have a stronger, longer attention span.

The solution is all natural and requires no additional equipment or supplements.

All you need to do is practice for 30 days and you find yourself being able to pay attention at a whole new level.

Does it sound too good to be true?

Maybe it is.

But what if it’s not?

In all seriousness, research has shown that you can indeed increase your attention, and here are 3 ways that you can practice for as little as 10 minutes a day.

Purposely stop multitasking

Focused breathing mediation

Spend time in nature

Increasing your attention span can help you while studying and working but even more important is that it can make you more present in your interactions with people.  And being more present will lead to creating deeper and more meaningful relationships, especially with your loved ones.

So make working on your attention a priority, and move from having a shallow, fleeting interaction with your world to a fuller more vibrant relationship.

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What would your day look like if you agreed with everyone you interacted with?

If just for one day all you said was, you’re right or that’s a great idea.

And you did this by not just paying lip service but really taking the time to see the world through the eyes of another person.

Now obviously I’m not suggesting that you make a drastic life altering decision by blindly agreeing with everyone you meet, unless of course it benefits you.

What I am suggesting is being open minded, just for a day to alternative perspectives.

Even if you decide not to agree, just being open will give you a deeper understanding in to how people around you think and what is important to them.

If you find the just the thought of spending a day agreeing with others a little offensive then that says a lot about you and perhaps even how people feel about you.

Try agreeing with people, even if not for a whole day. Look at it this way, you can always go back tomorrow and say that you gave it more thought, and if it gives you pleasure then tell them they were wrong.

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Are you waiting for an easier day to come along?

A day so smooth that you glide right through it without experiencing any challenges?

Well, you’ll have to keep waiting because that day doesn’t exist.

And if you’re wondering, I can tell you with almost complete certainty that it doesn’t exist for anyone.

It might seem at times that some have it easier than you do, and you could be right. But there are others that are thinking the same when they see you.

Everyone is experiencing their own unique set of challenges and they are dealing with them accordingly.

Now, I know I said easier days don’t come along but that doesn’t mean you can’t change how you view your challenges.

You can begin by realizing that many of the challenges you face are in fact temporary and although they might seem huge in the moment, you know with some rational thinking that they will pass with time.

What I’m suggesting is that you learn to change your relationship with your challenges instead of fighting against them. This does not mean that you take a passive position just that you actively engage from a different viewpoint.

The truth is that in order to make your days easier, you have to work harder on yourself and not on the challenges you face.

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If you don’t ask.

If you don’t apply.

If you don’t act.

If you don’t take the first step.

You’ll never know.

You’ll never know.

That you could have succeeded.

That you could have won.

That it was yours for the taking.

That you were the right one for the job.

You’ll never know that you had greatness inside of you.

Don’t let your life be a succession of ‘you’ll never know.’

Somewhere inside you, you already know.

You feel the call in your mind and the tug on your heart. And just as you’re about to take the first step you stop.

This is the precipice of, you’ll never know.

It’s at this spot where you rock back and forth between knowing and not knowing.

It’s here where you decide, if you’ll never know.

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