How complicit are you in contributing to your dissatisfaction?

Dissatisfaction with what?

Well, it depends.

Where in your life do you feel as though you’re lacking, falling behind, or not as good as others?

Now you might push back and say that you’re dissatisfied not because you’re comparing your life to others and that you have an intrinsic desire to do better. And I’ll give you that for a moment.

But, how do you know what better is?

If you lived your life completely isolated from any other human, your main concern would be survival. So, food, water, shelter, that’s it.

Doing better is a learned idea.

Don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to do better. In fact, I encourage it. There are very few things that bring more personal satisfaction than self-improvement. But there’s a difference, perhaps nuanced, between self-improvement and dissatisfaction. The former is based on you wanting to become better, while the latter focuses on what you aren’t or don’t have.

I understand it’s easy to be dissatisfied, especially since you’re constantly shown and reminded by the media about all the things you don’t have. It’s almost as though you’re forced to see all that’s missing in your life.

If you’re interested in tamping down your sense of dissatisfaction, then you should learn to focus on all that you have and begin to eliminate sources that make you feel as though you have a hole in your life and leaves you in a constant state of comparison to others.

So, the next time you find yourself feeling dissatisfied with something in your life, ask yourself if it’s based on your life really is missing something or because you’re comparing it to something you’ve seen, read, or heard. My guess is that if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll quickly realize that you already have everything you need.

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