How you think about a person is how you’ll treat them.

Let that marinate in your mind for a moment.

If you think about a person with anger, contempt, irritation, or any other negative feeling, then regardless of your words, your feelings will still be conveyed, even if you attempt to hide them. And the same is true for positive feelings.

It’s been said that only 10% of communication is verbal, the rest is body language and tone. So even if you try to hide how you feel, your messages about how you think are still being transmitted. And a person can hear, or even feel what you’re really saying.

If you really want to convey love and warmth towards someone, then think of reasons why you’d feel that way towards them and you’ll find that your body language and tone will fall in line accordingly. If you don’t learn to do this then your attempt at words of affection will ring hollow, and they’ll sense it.

There will be times when this is difficult to do, but let this be the exception and not the norm. Perhaps Maya Angelou said it best when she said “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

So keep in mind the thoughts you have about an individual will be the launching pad for your actions and words towards that person.  And no matter how hard you try to mask your emotions, eventually they’ll feel what you’re really thinking.

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